Dear Denise: I am furious at my boyfriend for using ChatGPT to send me hot texts
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'He said he’s really be into roleplay.'
Dear Denise: I’ve always been pretty direct, so when I recently told my boyfriend he was lagging in the romance stakes, I also let him know that things were getting a little dull in the bedroom and asked if he could up his game.
It was said with love and slight frustration, and I was happy to say he rose to the occasion in more ways than one.
He splashed out on flowers and my favourite chocolates to let me know that he was thinking of me, and then even started sending me the filthiest messages while I was at work, which made me want to rip his clothes off as soon as I clocked off and got through the door.
It’s funny because he’s never been brilliant at dirty talk. Kind of robotic, if I’m honest.
Which is ironic — because last week, I found out he’s been using ChatGPT to generate sexts for me. I only found out because he accidentally left the tab open on his laptop.
Here’s the kicker: the AI was so good it had me blushing in public. I can’t believe I’ve been sexting a robot!
Answer: Ah 2025 — the year even foreplay is outsourced to the cloud. I think you have every right to be annoyed.
You thought you were connecting with your partner on a really intimate level and he was letting AI do the heavy lifting.
I mean, yes, we all have our strengths and weaknesses so you can’t knock his ingenuity for calling in a little help, even if it was a robot ghostwriter, but it just screams laziness to me.
Dirty talk isn’t supposed to be Pulitzer-worthy; it’s meant to be personal, messy, and honestly, a bit cringe. You’re not dating a chatbot.
You want your partner to be just and hot and bothered as you so you can both build up the sexual tension.
Tell him you want to be in the moment with him and while you are sure his intentions were good, he doesn’t need to outsource the hot, messy sext sessions in future.
'He said he’s really be into roleplay.'
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Hubby’s gone full drama with his role play
Dear Denise: I was out for dinner with my husband recently for our anniversary and after a couple of drinks I asked him if there is anything he’d like to try in the bedroom that we haven’t done before.
He said he’s really be into roleplay and that he’d love to handcuff and arrest me. I was open to it for a bit of fun and was happy to indulge some light interrogation.
I could throw on a trench coat, suspenders, and we could have some sexy noir vibes.
But Jesus Christ, this man would be booted off Fair City for his poor acting.
After reading me my rights and nearly putting me to sleep, he even narrated our foreplay like it was a podcast. I’m ready to turn myself in because I can’t cope with much more of this.
Answer: Yikes, this sounds like a crime against foreplay.
Let’s start with the positives here though. It’s wonderful that you are being so open and honest with your sexual desires and needs.
Allowing your husband the space to explore his sexual fantasies is wonderful. But did you offer up more of what you would like in the bedroom? It’s clear that this roleplay is being hijacked by your husband’s method acting, so gently pull him up outside of the bedroom and tell him you’d like to bring a little fun back into things.
Maybe less talking and more action. And perhaps you should direct the next fantasy?
Query: This probably sounds ridiculous but I want to buy a sex toy but I am going for a mortgage so don’t want it to show up on my bank account. Help.
Answer: Most sites bill under a generic name so don’t expect “SEX TOY” to pop up on your bank statement. They also ship in plain packaging because they are big on discretion. If you’re worried, email them directly.
Question: Can lube expire?
Answer: Absolutely yes — most lubes have a shelf life of 1 to 2 years. Check the label, a sniff test is not recommended. Bin it if you’re not sure. Nobody wants to deal with that kind of rash.
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